While attempting to watch a TED video, I saw a new Pantene commercial, and literally for the first time ever, I did not click “skip ad” on YouTube. I immediately sent a link to my friend who always says I’m sorry. I’ve told her for years, stop saying I’m sorry. What are you sorry for!?!
This ad hit right home with me. I feel like so many women say I’m sorry all the time, just like the ad shows. Multiple times a day. I probably even say it when I don’t realize it and don’t mean it even though I’m pretty stingy with my I’m sorry’s because it’s something that really bothers me. There are probably even times when people probably think I should say I’m sorry for something, but I don’t. Because I don’t say it when I don’t really mean it. I don’t care if it makes me look like a bitch or mean (not that I’m trying to be, I’m not). I always think to myself if a man said this, would people think he’s an asshole? Usually the answer is no.
I know most women probably don’t even realize they are saying it at this point, but it’s a deeply engrained thing in women to apologize versus just being assertive, or whatever the situation may be.
I may be insensitive, or come across blunt, curt, and up front — and I like that. The constant I’m sorry, whether you mean it or not, just comes across as weak (unfortunately) and submissive. And I know most women probably don’t want to come across that way. Maybe they want to be nice and kind, which is totally fine, but we don’t need to be sorry, unless we really truly are.
Sorry means feeling distress, sorrow or regret, especially through sympathy with someone else’s misfortune. So when you say I’m sorry, do you actually feel distressed?
No, I’m not sorry. I’m not even sorry I’m not sorry. When I do say I’m sorry for something, you know I actually mean it.
Do you say I’m sorry all the time? Do you even notice it?
What do you think about the Pantene ad?
My only criticism is that at the end they start saying sorry not sorry, but I don’t even really like that. It’s still saying sorry when it’s not necessary, even though you are saying that you’re not sorry. I know sorry not sorry is a trendy saying right now, but I prefer it when they just show an alternative phrase like excuse me, or nothing to replace it.